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When to see a marriage counselor?


"We see couples of all ages but especially between 35 and 60 years as crises occur," explains Arlene L. marriage counselor in a family planning clinic in hospital. "It is often the case after 10-15 years together and at the time of retirement." The reasons? The vicissitudes of life, ignorance of the evolution of love, the irruption of a third-person or the ravages of time, which leads to no longer support themselves.

Listening

"We do not give advice. Our primary role is to listen, to perceive what is said, to hear beyond the words in order to help the couple find their own solutions. " Generally, two scenarios are possible: one partner is neglected by the other or all of the couple is in crisis.
In the first case, the marriage counselor helps the person out of his suffering, to understand why it got there. She also advised of his rights by indicating where to go, what are the procedures to which they are exposed, particularly if it wishes to hire a lawyer.
In the second case, it is often one of two members of the couple who moved to the other to come see the marriage counselor. "To explore the problem, I am always her to receive them separately, even if at the time of assessment, it will see them together." To overcome this crisis, the marriage counselor tries, through his meetings, know what happened before, to bring out the differences, problems and misunderstandings.

neutrality and confidentiality

Talking to a neutral and unknown allows the couple to express themselves more freely without fear of trial, and allows a more objective manner.
"Confide in someone close, is to risk talking about personal problems to a person you can be blurred by now, but will remain an observer of your marriage." The marriage counselor is also very alert to possible attempts of manipulation by one or another member of the couple.
Seek a marriage counselor, it is also, for the couple, a guarantee of confidentiality and professional training.
"What we says one member of the couple is never reported to the other, except with his consent. We are bound by professional secrecy." Created by the 1972 Law on contraception, marital counseling profession may be exercised only after having trained for three years with a diploma. This majority of women already working in the medical, paramedical and with knowledge in psychology, sexology and individual behavior.